Showing posts with label #motherhood. Show all posts
Showing posts with label #motherhood. Show all posts

Friday, 21 September 2018

Top Tips that will Help you To Adjust to Life as a New Parent

If you are a new mother then you will understand how life-changing this can be. At times you may feel as though all you need is a few hours’ sleep and at other times you just need to be with your child no matter what. The bond that you have with your child will be unlike anything that you have ever experienced before and at the same time, you are exhausted like never before. If you want to get some top tips that will help you to adjust to being a new mum then here are some hints that will help you to get started.
You Don’t Have to be Super Quiet
Believe it or not, you don’t actually have to be super quiet when your baby is sleeping. This is because in the womb, things are pretty loud and newborn babies are really used to that level of noise. For this reason, you shouldn’t be afraid to watch television if this is what you want to do and you should also not be afraid to vacuum up either. If you need to wash the dishes then get it done or even speak on the phone when you know that the baby is sleeping. In fact, if you are able to get your baby used to sleeping with some level of noise then this can really help them in the future and you may even get to the point when you can vacuum up while they sleep when they are over a year old. If you feel bad about making noise then this is completely normal, but the sooner you are able to get around this the better it is for you and them as well.

Try and Soothe your Baby
When your baby cries, you may feel helpless and you may also find it hard to know what to do. One thing that you can do is try and pat them on the back in a heartbeat rhythm. This will help them to burp much more quickly and it will also help them to relax much more as well. If they are crying because they don’t feel secure then this can work wonders. If this doesn’t work then try and swaddle the baby, hold them on their side or even swinging them from side to side. The more you can do to try and provide them with some level of comfort, the better so you do have to try and keep this in mind wherever possible.




Latching On

if you are a mother then you may find it hard to get your baby to latch. It is more than possible for you to use breast shields to help you with this and there is no shame in admitting that you find it difficult. It is also important to know that it is okay to be frustrated at this point but what is happening is completely normal. So many mothers go through things like this and it can be a difficult phase for you to try and get through. If you would like to try and get some support nursing when you are out and about then the best way for you to get around this would be for you to try and look into things such as the best nursing tops. This can provide you with a lot of confidence and it can help you to nurse your baby when you are out.

Prepare
When your baby is around a month old, there is a high chance that the days and nights will become more predictable. At this point, you will be able to focus completely on your newborn as well as yourself. It is so important that you are able to take into account your own stress levels and you also need to focus on preparing your own meals as well. If you are struggling to do this then one way for you to get around this would be for you to prepare your meals way ahead of time. This way you don’t have to prepare too far ahead and you also don’t have to worry about how you are going to cook when they are crying. Little things can really help you out here, such as putting a glass of water next to your bed before you sleep and even watching your favourite TV show. When you do things like this to try and look after yourself, you would be surprised at how much energy you have in the day and you would also be surprised at how much you can de-stress as well.
Keeping your Baby Awake

This may sound like a strange concept because most of the time you will probably be trying to get your baby to go to sleep. If your baby is eating slowly and trying to sleep then you can try and massage their cheeks. When you do this, it will help them to suckle faster and this is sometimes all it takes for you to try and encourage them. So many people find that this works and it also helps to stop them from waking up again soon for another feed. When babies are able to fill themselves up before they go to sleep, they can then feel more relaxed and there is also a high chance that they will be calmer as well. This is great if you are struggling to get them to sleep for longer periods of time and it also gives you way more time to try and get things done as well.

So there are plenty of things that you can do to try and keep your baby in good health and when you follow the above tips, you can be sure to keep yourself in good health as well. After all, sometimes you only need to take a few simple steps to really turn your life around and when you are a new mother, this is really helpful even at the best of times.


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Friday, 8 September 2017

Worrying About Your Child's Development Now They're At School?

Lots of parents have gone through the ‘trauma’ of taking their babies to school for the first time. When you walk away from the school gate having just handed them over to the teacher, it’s difficult to tell which one of you was more teary, but before you left, you were observing. 
All mums discreetly check out the other kids while they’re waiting in line. 
They’re comparing what the other children can do, how well they speak, and how well behaved they are. 
How did your child compare to them?

Ultimately, we’re all worried that our kids aren’t where they should be by this age. It’s natural for any parent to fear that their child might not cope. 
The truth is that school is a steep learning curve. That doesn’t mean your child won’t make the climb and come out every bit as capable as the next child. 
On the contrary, it could be just the challenge they need to succeed.


Soon all of the children will be reading and writing and bringing home words to spell. They’ll be physically more adventurous, and socially more outgoing
Your child will change so much over the coming months! That won’t stop you worrying though. You’ll still wonder if they’re making enough progress - it’s natural! You should definitely speak to your child’s teacher if you are concerned. 
Of course, they are on the ball and will be chatting with you if there are any problems.

So what can you do to give your child an edge with their learning? There are plenty of great educational tools you can use at home like Reading Eggs and maths apps for kids. 
There are dozens of great books aimed at young school age children too. Practice a little each day. Physically, your child is being challenged in PE. You can help too, by playing football, catch, and jumping around. 
But what if you’re still worried?


One of the biggest worries people have when children start school is their speech. Poor speech means your child won’t be understood by the teacher. 
And it may mean they are socially excluded by the other kids if they can’t contribute to conversations. Fortunately, there is speech therapy for children that can be accessed at any age. If you’re worried, ask the teacher. You might also want to speak to your school nurse or GP too.


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Tuesday, 8 August 2017

Another Heartbreak.....

It happened again!
Miscarriage number two.
Two in the space of 5 months!


Same time as last time, right before I hit 7 weeks!

Everything this time round seemed so positive....
I was nauseous,
I had extremely tender breasts,
I had the metallic taste in my mouth and I was craving foods that I don't normally crave.

We didn't tell many people as we were scared it would happen again.

But because of all the symptoms I was having it was hard not to tell a few people.
I was excited.
It seemed so right this time.
Just like all the other pregnancies.

I booked a scan for when I was 8 weeks as I just wanted to make sure it was ok and I knew I wouldn't be able to wait till 10 weeks.

But the weekend before I turned 7 weeks I had a bleed.
It was like someone turned a tap on and then turned it right off again.
It seemed to heavy to be spotting but not enough to be a proper miscarriage.

I was confused and not sure what to do.

I phoned up the Early Pregnancy Unit on the Monday and booked a scan for the Tuesday.
I couldn't just wait and see I needed to know what was going on.

The scan showed the pregnancy sack and little tiny embryo but it didn't show a heartbeat and it did show a lot of blood.

They rebooked me in for the following week and told me to be prepared to have a visit to the a&e department once I started to bleed.

So I went away feeling pretty scared and completely torn up inside.
I spent the whole week waiting....
Nothing happened.

I kept being sick, I was constantly tired.
I did nothing but sit on the sofa staring into space.

The waiting was killing me.
By the end of the week I was starting to think They must be wrong and by the next scan the blood will be gone and there will be a heartbeat...

The following Tuesday came and I went back to the little room to hear my fate.
It was a new sister and when she read my notes I could tell by the look on her face it wasn't going to be the news I wanted it to be.

I went in for the scan and the only thing that had changed was the amount of blood surrounding the pregnancy sack.

I was given three choices...
To keep waiting and let it happen naturally,
Take some pills to make it happen and have a hospital stay whilst I bled or have the pregnancy tissue surgically removed.

The sister let me have the evening to decide and then I had to go back on the Wednesday to let them know which I was going to choose.

I knew I wouldn't be able to wait.
The easiest option was to have the op but I'd never been put to sleep before and the thought of it really worried me.

I decided the op seemed like my best option and on the Wednesday I was booked into have it the following day.

Thursday was blur really....
It happened,
I haven't cried yet
I'm trying to pretend it never really happened.
I'm keeping busy but I know it will hit me sooner or later1

My baby making days are over.
I can't do this again!

Tuesday, 1 August 2017

5 Unique Gift Ideas for Friends Who Are Expecting

So your friend has told you that she is expecting, congratulations! 
Whether you have been pregnant, once, twice or half a dozen times you will know that planning for the arrival of little ones is no mean feat. 
Deciding what to buy our pregnant friends can also be a little tricky.

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So with that in mind we have come up with a list of five completely original presents, that pregnant women actually want, to ensure your pressie is both practical and well thought out.

A Prenatal Massage

We’ve all been there. 
The aches and pains and general discomfort that pregnancy can bring. So why not treat your friend to a soothing and relaxing prenatal massage
Have a look into the local spas and beauty salons that offer prenatal massages and see what packages and deals they have available. 
This is a particularly great idea for anyone that is feeling a little overwhelmed and is going through the mill, physically. 
If that sounds like your pal then this
could be the perfect pressie.

Moses Basket

Not only are moses baskets a completely gorgeous accessory to any baby room but they are also really practical for ferrying baby around the house. 
If you would like to get your friend a little moses basket but are not quite sure where to look, check out a site like https://www.for-your-little-one.co.uk/furniture/moses-baskets
They are really charming to look at, are not as pricey as you may think and are a really unique gift for a pregnant friend, that they would probably never expect to receive, so it could be a winning idea.

Organic Beauty Kits

As pregnant women and mummies need to be extra careful with the products that they use and the products that they put on their skin, why not think about getting your friend a lovely little organic beauty kit. 
There are now lots of companies that specialise in lovely skin care items that are safe for pregnant women so if you think this could be the perfect gift for your friend, check out this site, reviewing ten of the best organic beauty kits on the market, www.eluxemagazine.com

Foot Massager

Again this one is all about mum. 
Treating your friend to a lovely home, foot massager could be just what your friend needs to take the weight off and spend a little time indulging herself and relaxing before and after the little ones arrival.

Baby Record Book

Baby books are a super thoughtful present for mums to be as they tend to be the sort of items that pregnant women rarely think of buying for themselves. 
Baby record books are such a charming gift idea as they will enable your friend to be able to record all her baby precious first moments. 
From first steps, first smile, first tooth to fall out all the way to the first lock of hair to be cut. Baby record books are a fantastic way of capturing all the lovely adventures mums to be are about to experience as a parent and will be able to always look back on with this book.


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Thursday, 27 July 2017

Rupert's First Assessment With The Community Paediatricians

This was something I was desperate for a couple of months ago, but I really thought it wasn't going to happen.

I even had some stuck up Health Visitor tell me that she was going to cancel the doctors referral as she really didn't think there was anything wrong with him.

After talking to a mum at school and finding out the troubles she's had trying to get a diagnosis for her son who is the same age as Noah I really thought 'right well if their having trouble there's no hope for us'.
So imagine my surprise when out of the blue we have a letter telling us we have an appointment the first week of the summer holidays.



I spoke to the mum at school and told her who we were seeing and she told me she was one of the nicer ones and the one who actually agreed with her about her son.

So I had a tiny little glimmer of hope, but as the day came closer I really started to dread it.

Was I going to be told the same old oh he's fine, he's giving me eye contact and that its all in my head?

Ru's appointment was on Monday at 2.40 and the day couldn't have gone any slower!
When we arrived we sat in the waiting room and Ru played nicely with the cars and the kitchen.
We waited a while to be seen and the butterflies in my stomach were going crazy.

When we were eventually called in we sat on the chairs by her and Rupert sat on me hiding behind me but then every now and then popping his head out and smiling at her.

He then got bored of doing that and got down and started playing with the toys that were set out. Making me sit on the tiny little chairs beside him.

She did say because he was giving her eye contact and looking like he was listening to what we were talking about she really didn't think he was autistic, but she listened to us and watched him.
 She then agreed she could see some of the traits and understood where we coming from.

She also agreed he has some sensory issues.
It was nice to finally be listened to and not fobbed off.
I know from speaking to other mums of autistic children that eye contact is not the be all and end all, so I was happy that she didn't let that be it.

She is going to send us an autism questionnaire for us and his nursery to fill in along with a sleep diary. 
She will also arrange for him to see a speech therapist along with some other professionals.
I'm looking forward to reading the letter that she sends us and seeing what is going to happen next.




Should You Get Your Child Christened?

Having your child christened is something that a lot of parents decide to do without really knowing why. 
It is one of those traditions that people follow because they think it’s expected, even if they don’t necessarily believe in the religious aspect of the whole process.
For some parents, it’s not a difficult decision to make; if you’re strongly religious then you’ll likely want your children baptised but if you are not as strict with your religious beliefs then it might be a bit more difficult to decide whether you want to go through with it or not.
If you’re struggling to make a decision, here are a few things to consider.

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It Doesn’t Have To Be Religious

One of the main things that puts people off having their baby christened is the fact that they aren’t religious.
It seems odd to officially induct your new child into a religion that you don’t follow yourself. However, the religious aspect is only one part of it. 
In general, a christening is a way to officially name the child and celebrate their birth with your friends and family. 
Lots of people these days are opting to have what is called a naming day instead. All of the celebrations are still there, but without any of the religious elements. 
So you can still have a big party and get lots of great christening presents from places like Saffron Bells. That way you can still enjoy the process without feeling strange about it. It will also be a lot cheaper because you have more choice over the venue, rather than being limited to an expensive church.

The Child Doesn’t Have A Choice

Perhaps the biggest reason to decide against a religious christening is the fact that the child doesn’t get a say in the matter. Deciding on a religion is a very big choice to make. It isn’t just as simple as getting christened. 
When you choose to follow a religion, you are making serious decisions about your lifestyle that will affect you forever. 
If you have your child christened, they may feel as though they are being pushed in a certain direction and that unnecessary pressure may cause tension. As they get older, if they decide that they don’t want to follow a religion, they could end up resenting you for having them christened because they have that label even though they aren’t religious.

It Can Help With Schooling

It’s a sad reality, but finding good school places these days often takes some pretty drastic measures. 
It isn’t uncommon for people to move house to be nearer to a good school and improve their chances of getting in.
Religious schools are often some of the best ones out there, but they have strict rules about who can and can’t get in. 
Most of the time your child will need to be christened before they’re even considered so it might be worth having it done, if only for completely practical reasons.
Some parents feel uneasy about this because they feel like it devalues the whole thing, but if you can put those concerns aside, it can really give your child a head start in life.  

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Saturday, 15 July 2017

Struggling To Keep Your Kids Busy This Summer?

We’ve all been there, but when you are looking for something both original and exciting to do with your children over the summer it can be extremely frustrating. 
No matter what you might have tried before, you probably want to try and introduce your children to something brand new - and that is where it can get difficult. 

Something that always works well is to make it vaguely educational, even if only a little. This means that you are happy as the parent, and they are happy at having found something new to do with the summer holidays. 
Let’s have a look at a few examples of the kind of activity you can carry out which suits these particular parameters.

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Crafts

If you think your children have something of a creative streak, you might want to try and bring it out and make the most of ity possible. 
This is a great thing to do at any time of year, summer included, and it will also mean that you are encouraging in your vkids something which can see them through the rest of their life. If you haven't done this before, think about what kind of art or craft your children are likely to enjoy. Whatever you think that is, you are bound to find something that works, and it is well worth doing. To make it more effective, consider getting involved yourself - this is something you could even just do at home if you wanted to, it’s that easy to get into.




Sports

Summer is the ideal time for getting your kids into sport, but one of the hardest decisions here is which sport to get them into. If you are bored of the old favorites, why not think about trying something new with the kids? 
You could take them on some kids golf lessons, for example, or you could try and get them into a game like cricket or tennis. It really doesn’t matter what the sport is, as long as you think it is something they will be able to enjoy and which you can easily get them into in your local area. Make sure you are happy with it, too - some sports might be too dangerous for kids of a certain age or disposition.
If you successfully get your children into a sport, you will probably more likely consider it a summer well spent, so this is definitely worth thinking about.




Classes

It might be that you want to make the most of the holiday by continuing the education - albeit in an extra-curricular sense.
This is not the ideal option for all children, but for some it just might be. 
If you think your child has a particular gift for something or other, then there is nothing wrong with encouraging them to learn more about that subject over the summer holidays. 
Just make sure that they genuinely want to do it and that they do not feel as though they are pushed into it in any sense.


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