Showing posts with label #mumlife. Show all posts
Showing posts with label #mumlife. Show all posts

Saturday, 13 May 2017

The Baby That Never Had a Chance.....


I was so excited about telling the world that baby number 5 was on it's way.

Last Sunday I started bleeding, it started off like spotting and I tried not to be too worried.


I rang up the EPU to get a scan booked in, they could see me the next morning.
Tuesday morning came around far too slowly.
I spent most of Monday too scared to go to the toilet for what I might see at the bottom of the toilet bowl.

I had both a tummy scan and an internal scan.
They could see no sign a of baby.

I had done 5 ... 5 bloody tests all of which were positive.
No matter how much I didn't feel pregnant after the first one, they still kept showing me I was.

The sister explained, this could have been because the pregnancy didn't progress as I thought it was progressing and ended very early on or it could mean there may be a pregnancy going on outside the womb.


I was sent off for bloods and then told to go home and wait for the results.
Again it was another day spent far too scared to go to the toilet and I tried my hardest not too as I was starting to see clots come away.

The results came in, in the afternoon and it was still showing I was pregnant.
Ectopic pregnancy was then discussed and I was told they would need to see me again on Thursday for further bloods.

Jon was away in London whilst this was going on, so I was home alone dealing with the boys as well as everything racing around my mind.
In a way it was good, as I was kept busy and I wasn't really able to sit and think about it.

Thursday came and more bloods were taken, the results didn't come back as quickly and I found myself hounding the EPU as I just needed to know.
Jon was going in for his second back operation and the boys were really starting to play up.
I was on the edge of cracking, but I had to stay strong.

I eventually had a call at 5pm and the results were still showing pregnancy hormones present but not high enough for them to be in the danger zone and be a sign on an ectopic.

I was having a miscarriage.

I could now actually start mourning the loss of the baby that never was.

I have cried, 
I have been ok,
 I have thought about the last time this happened, 
I have been fine and cried some more and now I am just angry!

I am angry at myself for getting so excited, 
I'm angry that I told people about baby number 5,
 I'm angry that I got so excited and started buying things for baby number 5!
I am just angry!

This has happened before I should know by now alway alway always wait until the first scan.
Make sure everything is ok before I get my hopes up.

I am angry and so so gutted that baby number 5 never really had a chance.




Sunday, 30 April 2017

New Minene Pyjamas

There's nothing nicer than brand new pyjamas, so when we were asked to review some Minene Pjs I was more than happy to say yes.


Most of Ru's pjs are getting too small and more than half are hand me downs!

I was asked to pick which ones I wanted, so I went for;
Summer Grey Pyjamas (£16.00) 
and



Ru loved both of the designs and was more than happy to jump into them as soon as he had, had his bath.
The first pair he picked out was the Summer Grey pjs.
The little monster on the t-shirt represents Ru right down to a T!


The material is nice and soft and the fit is perfect, not too tight not too baggy.


Each Pyjama set comes in a nice organza gift bag, so they'd make a perfect present.



It's recommended that you wash them at 30 degrees.
They wash up well, we haven't had any shrinkages yet and he's worn them a few times since receiving them.


All of Minene Pjs are available from ages 2yrs right up to 8yrs!
Minene also have a sweet collection of baby clothes that go up to age 2.
Along with their range of clothes & Pjs, they have a beautiful range of storage for the home.

All at very reasonable prices.
If you haven't checked out their website, I highly recommend having a look!




**I was sent the Pyjamas for  free, all thoughts are my own!

Monday, 24 April 2017

Bath, Book, Bed:


Book Trust have teamed up with Peppa Pig and Jo Frost to bring you their new campaign.
Bath, Book, Bed.

We were lucky enough to be asked if we wanted to be part of the campaign and seeing as I've just got Ru back into a routine of bath, book and bed I happily said yes.


We were sent some amazing Peppa Pig goodies, a whole range of bath time fun and some new bedtime stories.
Ru is slightly obsessed with Peppa and George at the moment so when he opened the box he squealed with delight!


Sweet dreams start with a simple routine.

Bath, Book, Bed is all about developing a regular nightly bedtime routine, which we know is associated with improved sleep in young children - and, of course, there's nothing better than snuggling up to share a soothing bedtime story.


With all the boys I have always stuck to the same routine of bath, book, bed and it has always worked.

Then along came Ru and he shook things up a bit.
He was great at sleeping as a baby and would settle by himself after a cuddle, but then came the day that he decided to jump out of his cot at around 18 months old.
Then from then until very recently he wouldn't sleep and would stay up till midnight being crazy.

It had become his routine, he would watch me read to the others and put them to bed and then he would come downstairs and have a few hours playing without the others around or being glued to the iPad.

We were so tired and we thought we had tried everything so we caved and thought that was it, he was never going to sleep like the others.

But then enough was enough, our relationship was suffering and we were beyond tired and Ru's meltdowns had reached boiling point.
We needed to do something and quickly.


I reverted back to my tried and tested routine which was bath, book and bed.
This time round I made sure at 6'oclock the TV was switched off and the iPad was hidden out of sight.

A nice warm bath with some essential oils in was run and Ru was put in on his own, as when he baths with the twins, things get silly and the bathroom floor always ends up with more water on it than in the bath.


Having the Peppa Pig bath bubbles really helped him enjoy the bath more, he loved blowing the bubbles and watching them pop.


We give him at least 15 minutes in the bath as this seems to really help him wind down.
Then its out and teeth brushing time.
He absolutely hated his teeth being brushed before, and I have been through so many toothbrushes with him to see if different ones would make it more fun for him....


Never had I seen a flashing one before,
Of course a Peppa Pig flashing one was bound to do the trick!

He brushed them first and then let me do the rest.


After the twins are in bed and Noah is reading to Jon, I take Ru in to his room switch on his night light and let him pick a story.
He tends to want the same story night after night, but thats ok as I know he's going to listen.
He'll lay in bed drinking his warm milk and listen to me read.

He still has a bottle which I know is bad but its a comfort for him and eventually I'll phase it out.


Once I have read the book twice I'll then hand it to him as he likes to have a look and pretend to read it back to me.

After we have finished with the book we will then switch off his night light and then sing some nursery rhymes (incy wincy spider is his favourite) and then finally he will drift off to sleep with me patting his back.

Now most nights he is fast asleep by 8pm.

My next challenge is to keep him in bed all night.
He still wakes around 11 to get into our bed but compared to his last routine this is much much better and it works.
He gets more sleep and we actually have a child free evening.


So my top tips for getting little ones into bed....

Turn the TV off and take the tablet away an hour before bed,
Always have a warm bath to start off the bedtime routine,
Read a story, reading a bedtime story as reading together is a great way to bond and relax the mind.
Keep lights nice and low, night lights are great at this.

Another tip that I find useful at bedtime .... a tidy bedroom helps keep the atmosphere nice and calm.
I will always make the boys tidy up before bed.
Otherwise they're normally tempted to get out of bed and play with the toys that they can see.




Book Trust Events

Join us for our Bath, Book, Bed events at intu Trafford Centre, Manchester on April 27 and intu Lakeside, Thurrock on 28 April.

You’ll have the chance to meet Jo Frost and a very special surprise guest, and get lots of advice on winning those bedtime battles from Jo and the BookTrust team. The events are free and there’s no need to register in advance – we’d love to see you there.





Sunday, 23 April 2017

Little Life Update...

I feel as though the past week has been super crazy but when I sit back and think about it not much really happened physically but mentally a lot was happening....


Jon had his tester surgery yesterday, so most of last week was spent doing things that he needed to get done as from now for about 12 weeks ish he can't do anything.
For this first 3 weeks whilst he has the trial cords are in he can't even lift his hands above his head let alone lift a kettle.

We were lucky enough to be able to visit the Bure Valley Railway on Thursday which I will tell you all about in another post.

We had a SALT appointment for Ru on Wednesday but when we turned up it had been canceled and no one had bothered to tell us, which resulted in Ru having a meltdown and hitting out at me.
Again Friday we were expecting our Health Visitor and again she never bothered to show up which confused Ru again as stupidly I told him Lucy was coming.

Note to self :: Don't let Rupert in on daily plans!!!

I also found out something BIG, like really really really big but I can't say just yet!
But it is HUGE news and I really can't wait to be able to shout it to the world.

Now I've had time to process everything that happened last week, this week should be easier and I should have more time for the blog.

It's also Ru's 3rd birthday on Tuesday, I can't believe he's three already. Where has the time gone?!
We're going to have presents and cake today as he's at nursery on Tuesday and I want him to be able to have a smooth transition from home to nursery and with presents in the morning that would really throw him.

Sunday, 9 April 2017

Chicken Pox Suck!


I thought I had it all figured out when it came to Chicken Pox.
Ru didn't seem to have any issues.
He had spots but he went about his normal toddler business without much of a fuss.
He'd enjoy his oat baths and then would allow me to cover him in Virasoothe.

So when the twins and Noah started coming out in spots, I thought I knew what I was doing and everything would be hunky dory.


OoooH how wrong was I!

It's a complete nightmare, they won't stop crying, they hate being touched, the spots are everywhere and OMG they are massive! 
Poor Alex even has one right on his bottom eyelid.
They all have them around and on their lips.

They are in sooo much pain and I am completely powerless.
Virasoothe is doing nothing, the oat baths aren't helping and the Calpol and antihistamine doesn't seem to be doing anything.

I was bed hopping from one twin to the other last night, whilst hearing Noah cry out in pain downstairs. It's was probably one of the worst nights we've had in a long time.

This morning I sent Jon out to buy more supplies.
Lots of people on Instagram have told me they used PoxClin, so that was top of the list.
Along with more Calpol and antihistamine.
He came back with everything I asked for plus a giant Costa Coffee to make my life a little more pleasant.

Alex has spent the whole day naked, as he can't bare for anything to touch him, Oscar has been very quite...he hasn't got it as bad yet, but he only started coming out in spots yesterday.
I recon tomorrow is going to be his bad day.
Noah stopped crying around lunch time and says its not so bad now I've started using the new cream/mousse, but he still isn't keen on me putting the PoxClin on him.

They all had a bath with normal bubbles and then were creamed up and given their nightly dose of Calpol and antihistamines before being put to bed.

They pretty much fell asleep instantly, as they are just so drained.
Fingers crossed they sleep better than they did yesterday.


Our Easter Half Term fun really has been thrown out the window.
I can't wait for them to be feeling better because these f***ing pox suck!

Back to a time when pox spots were funny!


Monday, 3 April 2017

The Last Two Weeks // Solo Parenting // Mother's Day // Family

The last two weeks Jon has been in London learning about the new device that is going to be fitted into his spine to help him deal with his pain.


He's had to do lots of therapy around how he already deals with his pain and be taught other ways which are better.
Once this week is over he'll then be waiting to hear when his trail will be going ahead.
Fingers crossed by the end of this year, he will be well on his way to be able to deal with his back pain and be able to live again and enjoy his boys.


Last week he was doing so well but then his biggest fear happened and he was right across the road from the awful terror attack that happened and he pretty much went into shut down mode.
As the victims were all brought in the hospital right in front of his very eyes, he's found that hard to deal. He was then escorted back to his accommodation by an armed police escort.

He's always hated me going up to London with the boys incase something like that happened and we've always told him not to be so silly, thats highly unlikely to happen.

This is going to take a long time for him to get over but I'm hoping he will talk to a professional about it, as otherwise he will just keep it in and it will fester inside him making it 100x worse.

He came home at the weekend, and tried to enjoy the boys but it was plain for all to see he was reliving the terror and spent most of the weekend hiding away in the bedroom.


My parents and Gran came up for the weekend and we went to Snettisham Park Farm to go on the Deer Safari. 
We persuaded Jon to come along and he was a bit hesitant to start with but in the end rather enjoy seeing the boys have fun.



We met some lovely animals and all the boys really enjoyed feeding the Deers on the safari.

Sunday was Mother's Day and my mum got busy in the kitchen cooking up a beautiful dinner with the help of the boys.

I was given some lovely hand made goodies from all the boys, along with my very cool Maker of Boys t-shirt.



Noah decided he didn't want Daddy to miss out on the fun of Mother's Day, so wrote my card to the both of us!



My parents went back after the Sunday Roast and Jon left early Monday morning.
My Gran stayed on to keep me company and then just before the school run Jenny arrived.

The second week with Jon being away was a lot easier as I had two helpers around.
We did lots of shopping and drank lots of coffee.
Rupert had chicken pox so wasn't at coffee, but Nana and Gramps came over to babysit so we could go shopping child free.

Jenny and my Gran left after the school run on Wednesday and I spent the day cleaning up ready for Jon's return on the Thursday.

He came home with lots of exciting news and seemed like he had a spring in his step.

The operation that he's now waiting for may happen within the next month, so by summer time he should be ready to start a fresh with next to no pain at all!


Now its the half term, we have lots of plans.
Mostly to enjoy the garden and no to stress out, but next week we have a fun day out planned thanks to Great Anglia railways!


Thursday, 30 March 2017

ChickenPox

I've been a little quiet on the blog for the past two weeks, due to a few reasons. 
One of which is Rupert has chickenpox!

My youngest and first to catch them.
None of the others have had it yet, so now as Ru's start to scab over I'm on spot watch on the others.
I'm dreading Noah getting them as I know he'll be the one to make the most fuss.


Ru was pretty grizzly to start with but if I had a stream of snot running down my face all the time I think I would be too!

I was given lots of suggestions from lots of lovely mummies over on Instagram, I made sure I had some tricks up my sleeve to help deal with the itch when it came!

What I used -
Boots allergy relief for ages 1 and up
Oats, which I made into bath bombs with a pair of old tights. Then every bath time he had an oat bath which is meant to help sooth the skin.
Virasoothe!
This was amazing, Jenny came over on Monday and suggested I try it as her mum recommended it.
it cost around £8 and I found it in Sainsburys.

Instantly after the first use his spots looked less angry and he stopped itching completely!



Most of his spots are now starting to scab over so hopefully by next week he'll be back to normal and back to nursery.

Even with him having Chicken Pox, I stuck to his new bedtime routine and made sure he was asleep by 8.
Most nights its worked, but he is still getting up at 10 to get into my bed.
A few times I have tried to get him back into his bed, but then that only works for an hour and then he's up again.

Once he's full better I think ill be giving that another go and will be trying my hardest to stick at it.



Tuesday, 28 March 2017

The Joy Of Sleep: Simple Tips For Sleep-Deprived Parents

For many parents, nothing is more of a challenge than trying to muddle through the day on a serious lack of sleep. Even if you’re blessed with children who sleep through from an early age, it can be rare to get through a week without at least a few disruptions. It can also be all too easy to get used to a lack of sleep, which makes adapting to a ‘normal’ routine tricky. If you’re a parent craving a good night’s sleep, here are simple tips to try.





Adopt your own routine
As a parent, you’re probably used to routines, but they usually involve your kids. You probably focus all your attention on trying to get your little ones into a regime and don’t think twice about your own. The truth is that sleep routines aren’t just for kids. Your body has a clock, and if you can get used to a pattern that suits you, this will be hugely beneficial for your health and wellbeing. If you’re one of those parents who finds themselves drifting off on the sofa in front of the TV, start going to bed earlier, and be as regimented with your regime as you are with your children’s. You can use a sleep tracking app or simply just work out how much sleep you need, and adapt your timetable accordingly. Try and stick to these times, even if you do get a rare opportunity to enjoy a lie-in.

Make your bedroom inviting and relaxing
Has your bedroom become a second playroom? Is it more of a noisy meeting place than a serene retreat? Many kids like to hang out in their parent’s bedrooms, but try and make this a tranquil place, where you can get some respite after a long day. Socialise with your children in their bedrooms or play together in the kitchen. By all means, have the kids in with you in the morning for cuddles, but try to keep this a relaxing space, especially in the evenings. If you’re fed up of perching on the edge of the bed while the kids sprawl out or you find it hard to get comfortable at night, have a look at some mattresses on websites like John Ryan by Design or take a trip to a showroom and try some different options for size. Make the room more cosy with lamps, cushions, and throws, and try and avoid bringing tablets and phones into your room. Ideally, you want to feel relaxed and calm the moment you walk through the door.

Switch off
This is easier said than done when you’re a parent, but it’s so important. Once the children have gone to bed, do something you find relaxing and enjoyable for an hour or so before you head up to your room. Run a bath, read a magazine or put some music on. Do some sewing, call a friend for a catch-up and chill out in front of the TV.




Parenting presents many challenges, including trying to power through the day on limited sleep. If you’re a tired parent, hopefully, you’ll find these tips handy.




**This is a collaborative post.

Tuesday, 21 March 2017

This Is The Book Thats Replaced The iPad. This Is The Book Thats Helped Bring Back Sleep


I was in two minds about writing this post, as I really really don't want to jinx it....but I'm so thrilled that I kinda have to share it!

We seem to have cracked Ru's sleep issues!


We were hoping for a miracle from the specialist health visitor, but she didn't really have any tips and tricks I hadn't really tried.

So I decided I had to re try one that I tried a while back but completely failed at.
Taking away the screen time.
Rupert has a big love for the iPad and when I took it away before it only resulted in him head banging and just getting completely out of control.

I tried a new way to combat this....whilst Ru was in the bath at 6, the TV turns off and we hide the iPad whilst he's not looking.
After the bath he'll ask for it but we then tell him its broken and we'll get a new one tomorrow.

This little white lie has worked and you can see him thinking about it, he'll then re tell us its broken and that he wants a blue one tomorrow.

I will then take him into his room at 7 and read 'This Is The Bear' and then he will re-tell it to me and then we'll turn off his moon light and sing incy wincy spider about 20 times and then by 8pm he is
ASLEEP!

He will wake around 11/12ish but he'll come and get into our bed and go straight back to sleep.
I am no longer laying on his floor and stupid hours of the night willing him to fall to sleep.
The iPad no longer rules our life, we're no longer afraid of it running out of battery.

We can relax a little.

This has been going on for a whole week now.
We've got our evenings back, he's in a better routine and the meltdowns aren't as crazy.

I don't mind co-sleeping with him, a kick in the leg/face/tummy is far better than laying on his floor wanting to cry my eyes out.

It's opened my eyes to the power screen time has over a child.
I swore till I was blue in the face that I had control over it, but I don't think I really did.

I'm hoping this stays like this and I know for sure that I won't be changing the no TV or iPad after 6pm rule, as even the other boys are doing well without it.

To be honest, the last few days the tv has rarely been on and its so enjoyable not having the constant noise in the background.



Sunday, 19 March 2017

Sunday Morning Vibes

Sunday morning lay ins are still non existence in this house.
Instead we're all up by 7 (at the latest) and greeted by an array of superheroes / animals.
As the boys pretty much fall out of bed and into a costume.

These boys would live in costumes 24/7 if they had it there way!

Breakfast is always finished by 8 and I'm left with the aftermath to clean up.
Which always resembles a bomb site, how they can make so much mess just from four bowls of cereal is beyond me.

But before the bomb squad sets up, a big cup of coffee always comes first.


What are your Sunday mornings like?


Photalife

Monday, 6 March 2017

Our Weekly Meal Plan

Our Weekly Meal Plan.

I'm getting back into meal planning after a few weeks of being rather unorganised.
So I thought I would share with you whats on the menu....




Monday
Chicken & Bacon with Pasta in a homemade tomato pasta sauce.
Tuesday
 A mild Chilli and Rice, with green veg on the side.
Wednesday
 Sausages, Mash and peas ( a dinner that Noah hates, but I still keep trying).
Thursday 
 D.I.Y Pizzas,  a fun dinner that the boys all love doing and eating.
Friday
 Meatballs and Spaghetti.
Saturday
 Spanish Chicken with sweet peppers.
Sunday
 Roast Dinner.

I always find that when I do a meal plan, the boys have more of a varied diet and aren't constantly eating spaghetti Bolognese.

They are always up for trying new things minus Rupert, so when ever I cook up something they haven't had, they usually tend to gobble it all up!

It's always encouraging when they ask for seconds, and it pushes me on to cook up more interesting things for them.

I'm also trying to get the boys to snack more healthily, they love their fruit and veg but having biscuits and crisps in easy to reach places they always tend to reach for them.
So with this weeks shop I've bought more snacking veg and fruit and will put the non healthy snacks somewhere its not so easy for them to reach.


What are you having for dinners this week?



Monday, 27 February 2017

Getting Back Into Exercise ...

For the past month or so I have been upping my exercise, as pretty much before now the only exercise I would take part in was the school run!

I have been attending a local Barre Class with Jon's sister Jenni and I absolutely love it!
I'm already noticing changes in my body and I'm feeling much better within myself.


"Most barre-based classes use a combination of postures inspired by ballet and other disciplines like yoga and Pilates. The barre is used as a prop to balance while doing exercises that focus on isometric strength training (holding your body still while you contract a specific set of muscles) combined with high reps of small range-of-motion movements." Also, don't be surprised if your class incorporates light handheld weights to bring the burn during all those reps, as well as mats for targeted core work."




I usually only do one lesson a week but last week we did two and I felt even better for doing it, so I'm thinking I may start doing the Wednesday and Friday class

I've also got a bit of the exercising bug and I've started doing some Yoga at home using a free Yoga app that I downloaded from the App Store.

I did my first workout last night and I've never ached so much in my life!
It's a good ache and I'm looking forward to tonights workout.

I used to love my gym sessions before the boys were born and you'd often find me there working up a sweat on the cross trainer and it feels good to be actually getting back my fitness.

I'm no longer feeling like a couch potato, I feel like I have a bit more get up and go.

I've actually developed a slight legging obsession and find myself scrolling through sport Instagram photos looking at all the different ones I could get!

I don't want to be the mum who people say 'yeah you can tell she's had four kids', I want to be the mum where people think 'omg she's had four kids!!!?!?!'

I know I shouldn't really give two shoots what people think, but we all care and theirs no point in denying that.


I'm hoping by summer I can feel more confident in my own skin and be happy to go swimming with the boys without wanting to hide my body away.



Monday, 20 February 2017

Our Half Term

After Oscar spending the week before half term in hospital we knew we weren't going to be getting up to anything too excited but we tried to make the most of the week.


On Tuesday Rupert had his first full day at nursery so I decided to take Noah and the twins to the cinema to watch the new Lego Batman Movie.
Oscar started out ok, but within 20 minutes of the film starting he wanted to go home, I text Jon to come and rescue him and as soon as Oscar got back to the car he was sick.

Noah and Alex loved the film and have already demanded I buy it on dvd as soon as its out!
Poor Oscar spent the rest of the day asleep.


Rupert had another full day at nursery on the Wednesday, so whilst he was out we stayed in and I practised my face painting skills.
We had Sam round so the boys were pretty busy entertaining themselves after I had finished painting their faces.

Oscar again spent most of the afternoon laying on the sofa.



We also cracked out Noah's Land of Dinosaurs kit which he was sent from Clementoni Toys.
The boys all loved watching the volcano explode and planting up the seeds.
We are now on daily seed watch and noting down any changes that we see.
I will be doing a whole post on the kit so keep an eye out.


Rupert is still being a massive pain in the bum by not sleeping.
He's been getting up at 3am every day since I've been back from hospital and to say I'm running on empty is a little bit of an understatement.

We have met our new Health Visitor and told her all about his issues and she is going to come back in a few weeks with another lady and see if they can both help us tackle it.

My mum sent me this diffuser from ThisWorks.....so far it hasn't had much of an effect other than making his room smell gorgeous.
I will stick with it as it might click in his head that, that scent is associated with bedtime.

I'm also thinking about getting him a single bed, as he won't come and get into our bed, not without a fight anyway and I always end up sleeping on his floor....which is resulting in my hip starting to hurt and me not getting any sleep.
If he had a bed that I could fit in as well as him it might help my lack of sleep and he'll be happy because I'm there with him.


By Friday we did some more face painting and a little baking.
The weather was pretty good over the half term so the boys were all able to play in the garden when they wanted.

Oscar has gone back to school today but he's still not 100% back to normal.
I went in early today to talk to the head teacher and his teachers and they are all happy to see him back and have said if he needs a rest he can have a lay down or they'll call me to come and collect him.


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