Showing posts with label #parenthood. Show all posts
Showing posts with label #parenthood. Show all posts

Friday, 8 September 2017

Worrying About Your Child's Development Now They're At School?

Lots of parents have gone through the ‘trauma’ of taking their babies to school for the first time. When you walk away from the school gate having just handed them over to the teacher, it’s difficult to tell which one of you was more teary, but before you left, you were observing. 
All mums discreetly check out the other kids while they’re waiting in line. 
They’re comparing what the other children can do, how well they speak, and how well behaved they are. 
How did your child compare to them?

Ultimately, we’re all worried that our kids aren’t where they should be by this age. It’s natural for any parent to fear that their child might not cope. 
The truth is that school is a steep learning curve. That doesn’t mean your child won’t make the climb and come out every bit as capable as the next child. 
On the contrary, it could be just the challenge they need to succeed.


Soon all of the children will be reading and writing and bringing home words to spell. They’ll be physically more adventurous, and socially more outgoing
Your child will change so much over the coming months! That won’t stop you worrying though. You’ll still wonder if they’re making enough progress - it’s natural! You should definitely speak to your child’s teacher if you are concerned. 
Of course, they are on the ball and will be chatting with you if there are any problems.

So what can you do to give your child an edge with their learning? There are plenty of great educational tools you can use at home like Reading Eggs and maths apps for kids. 
There are dozens of great books aimed at young school age children too. Practice a little each day. Physically, your child is being challenged in PE. You can help too, by playing football, catch, and jumping around. 
But what if you’re still worried?


One of the biggest worries people have when children start school is their speech. Poor speech means your child won’t be understood by the teacher. 
And it may mean they are socially excluded by the other kids if they can’t contribute to conversations. Fortunately, there is speech therapy for children that can be accessed at any age. If you’re worried, ask the teacher. You might also want to speak to your school nurse or GP too.


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Thursday, 27 July 2017

Rupert's First Assessment With The Community Paediatricians

This was something I was desperate for a couple of months ago, but I really thought it wasn't going to happen.

I even had some stuck up Health Visitor tell me that she was going to cancel the doctors referral as she really didn't think there was anything wrong with him.

After talking to a mum at school and finding out the troubles she's had trying to get a diagnosis for her son who is the same age as Noah I really thought 'right well if their having trouble there's no hope for us'.
So imagine my surprise when out of the blue we have a letter telling us we have an appointment the first week of the summer holidays.



I spoke to the mum at school and told her who we were seeing and she told me she was one of the nicer ones and the one who actually agreed with her about her son.

So I had a tiny little glimmer of hope, but as the day came closer I really started to dread it.

Was I going to be told the same old oh he's fine, he's giving me eye contact and that its all in my head?

Ru's appointment was on Monday at 2.40 and the day couldn't have gone any slower!
When we arrived we sat in the waiting room and Ru played nicely with the cars and the kitchen.
We waited a while to be seen and the butterflies in my stomach were going crazy.

When we were eventually called in we sat on the chairs by her and Rupert sat on me hiding behind me but then every now and then popping his head out and smiling at her.

He then got bored of doing that and got down and started playing with the toys that were set out. Making me sit on the tiny little chairs beside him.

She did say because he was giving her eye contact and looking like he was listening to what we were talking about she really didn't think he was autistic, but she listened to us and watched him.
 She then agreed she could see some of the traits and understood where we coming from.

She also agreed he has some sensory issues.
It was nice to finally be listened to and not fobbed off.
I know from speaking to other mums of autistic children that eye contact is not the be all and end all, so I was happy that she didn't let that be it.

She is going to send us an autism questionnaire for us and his nursery to fill in along with a sleep diary. 
She will also arrange for him to see a speech therapist along with some other professionals.
I'm looking forward to reading the letter that she sends us and seeing what is going to happen next.




Should You Get Your Child Christened?

Having your child christened is something that a lot of parents decide to do without really knowing why. 
It is one of those traditions that people follow because they think it’s expected, even if they don’t necessarily believe in the religious aspect of the whole process.
For some parents, it’s not a difficult decision to make; if you’re strongly religious then you’ll likely want your children baptised but if you are not as strict with your religious beliefs then it might be a bit more difficult to decide whether you want to go through with it or not.
If you’re struggling to make a decision, here are a few things to consider.

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It Doesn’t Have To Be Religious

One of the main things that puts people off having their baby christened is the fact that they aren’t religious.
It seems odd to officially induct your new child into a religion that you don’t follow yourself. However, the religious aspect is only one part of it. 
In general, a christening is a way to officially name the child and celebrate their birth with your friends and family. 
Lots of people these days are opting to have what is called a naming day instead. All of the celebrations are still there, but without any of the religious elements. 
So you can still have a big party and get lots of great christening presents from places like Saffron Bells. That way you can still enjoy the process without feeling strange about it. It will also be a lot cheaper because you have more choice over the venue, rather than being limited to an expensive church.

The Child Doesn’t Have A Choice

Perhaps the biggest reason to decide against a religious christening is the fact that the child doesn’t get a say in the matter. Deciding on a religion is a very big choice to make. It isn’t just as simple as getting christened. 
When you choose to follow a religion, you are making serious decisions about your lifestyle that will affect you forever. 
If you have your child christened, they may feel as though they are being pushed in a certain direction and that unnecessary pressure may cause tension. As they get older, if they decide that they don’t want to follow a religion, they could end up resenting you for having them christened because they have that label even though they aren’t religious.

It Can Help With Schooling

It’s a sad reality, but finding good school places these days often takes some pretty drastic measures. 
It isn’t uncommon for people to move house to be nearer to a good school and improve their chances of getting in.
Religious schools are often some of the best ones out there, but they have strict rules about who can and can’t get in. 
Most of the time your child will need to be christened before they’re even considered so it might be worth having it done, if only for completely practical reasons.
Some parents feel uneasy about this because they feel like it devalues the whole thing, but if you can put those concerns aside, it can really give your child a head start in life.  

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Saturday, 15 July 2017

Struggling To Keep Your Kids Busy This Summer?

We’ve all been there, but when you are looking for something both original and exciting to do with your children over the summer it can be extremely frustrating. 
No matter what you might have tried before, you probably want to try and introduce your children to something brand new - and that is where it can get difficult. 

Something that always works well is to make it vaguely educational, even if only a little. This means that you are happy as the parent, and they are happy at having found something new to do with the summer holidays. 
Let’s have a look at a few examples of the kind of activity you can carry out which suits these particular parameters.

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Crafts

If you think your children have something of a creative streak, you might want to try and bring it out and make the most of ity possible. 
This is a great thing to do at any time of year, summer included, and it will also mean that you are encouraging in your vkids something which can see them through the rest of their life. If you haven't done this before, think about what kind of art or craft your children are likely to enjoy. Whatever you think that is, you are bound to find something that works, and it is well worth doing. To make it more effective, consider getting involved yourself - this is something you could even just do at home if you wanted to, it’s that easy to get into.




Sports

Summer is the ideal time for getting your kids into sport, but one of the hardest decisions here is which sport to get them into. If you are bored of the old favorites, why not think about trying something new with the kids? 
You could take them on some kids golf lessons, for example, or you could try and get them into a game like cricket or tennis. It really doesn’t matter what the sport is, as long as you think it is something they will be able to enjoy and which you can easily get them into in your local area. Make sure you are happy with it, too - some sports might be too dangerous for kids of a certain age or disposition.
If you successfully get your children into a sport, you will probably more likely consider it a summer well spent, so this is definitely worth thinking about.




Classes

It might be that you want to make the most of the holiday by continuing the education - albeit in an extra-curricular sense.
This is not the ideal option for all children, but for some it just might be. 
If you think your child has a particular gift for something or other, then there is nothing wrong with encouraging them to learn more about that subject over the summer holidays. 
Just make sure that they genuinely want to do it and that they do not feel as though they are pushed into it in any sense.


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Tuesday, 27 June 2017

3 Steps Towards That Once In A Lifetime Family Holiday

As a parent, you may find that you don't spend as much quality time with your kids as you would like. This is not for want of trying - but all too often, life just gets in the way, and family life becomes driven by routine. 
Shaking up that routine, however, can be a huge benefit for both parent and child alike. Modern families operate very differently to the way they did thirty or forty years ago - the notion of eating dinner together has vanished from a huge proportion of households, and the rise of technology has meant that young children are spending less time outside and more time in front of a screen. 

Parents also spend more time working, commuting and ferrying their kids around - and even Mum deserves a break too! That's why a big family holiday can be the best way to reconnect with your kids among the madness of everyday life. 
It is also something on many people's bucket lists: to take their kids away on a once in a lifetime trip that they'll remember forever. 
But pulling off such an excursion is easier said than done. There's a lot of money involved, and you want to make sure you pick somewhere that appeals to everyone (something that's quite hard if you have kids of different ages). 
However, if have faith in your planning abilities and you're dead set on giving your children the holiday they always dreamed of, here are a few ways to bring that dream to life.



Get your finances in order

There's no shying away from the fact that ANY family holiday costs a lot of money. But if you want to do something special next year, you'll need to start rethinking the way in which you handle your finances. 
The first thing to consider is where the bulk of the money is going to come from. You may already have a tasty savings pot, or perhaps you were fortunate enough to come into some inheritance a few years ago. If this isn't the case, however, you may need to get a little more inventive. 
One such way you can access the money required to fund such a trip is by looking into home owner loans.
Unlike other loans (questionable payday lenders, we're looking at you!), a home owner loan is secured against your property, making it altogether more reliable.
A lot of people use their home owner loan to see their kids through university or to reinvest back into the house, but there's nothing to stop you putting some of the funds towards a vacation either.

Pick something suitable

Trying to find a holiday that means everybody's requirements can be a pretty complex process. Your youngest might want nothing more than to go to Disneyworld, but you know full well that your eldest would sulk the whole time if your holiday revolved around talking animals and princesses. In this instance, you may want to try and meet in the middle; for example, booking a vacation to America and traveling through South Carolina, Georgia, and Florida. 
That way, you can visit Disneyworld for those who are interested, but your whole vacation doesn't revolve around it. Don't be afraid to think outside the box, either. 
Africa may not be the go-to option for family vacations, but it boasts some surprisingly beautiful beach resorts, and taking your kids on safari is something they'll never forget.





Set some rules in place before you leave

Holidays are all about having fun and relaxing. 
So, the last thing you want is for your children to be fighting the whole time you are there, or for there to be a sour atmosphere in the air. 
This type of behavior can have a knock-on effect on the whole holiday, which in turn can leave a bad taste in everyone's mouths. When you start planning the excursion, sit your children down and explain that you will only be going on the trip if they promise to show good behaviour.

Making efforts to change any bad behavior before jetting off will help you feel calmer about the whole thing. Also, make sure you are prepared to deal with all the eventualities that traveling with kids can bring. A screaming child on an airplane is no fun for anyone, least of all the parent of said child! So bring plenty of onboard entertainment to keep them occupied throughout the journey. 
Laying down the ground rules and being prepared simply means you will have more chance to sit back and enjoy your well-deserved break.





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Tuesday, 4 October 2016

Bepanthen Bedtime Challenge


As us mums/dads/carers know, making sure your baby gets a good night sleep is a must.
One it stops them from being complete utter terrors the next day and two you get to have you well earned rest.
Without those precious little bundles of cuteness sleeping, we end up like the walking dead and no matter how trendy zombies are it is not a good look!

Nappy rash is right up there at the top when trying to tick off your bedtime check list.
If the little one has a sore bottom, you know that the little one won't be having a good nights sleep!

Would you sleep well with a sore bum?
No, I don't think I would either.


Babies and routines go hand in hand.
Babies love routine and getting the night time routine spot on can really have you skipping out of your little ones room full of joy.


Ru and sleep have a bit of a love hate relationship at the moment.
I am currently sporting the zombie look and it really isn't doing me any favours!

He used to sleep amazingly, then something switched and he now is completely anti-sleep.
Sometimes I give in battling against him and let him pass out in the lounge, so I can at least chill out a little.
On other days....when I'm feeling stronger willed I will stick to the normal routine and sometimes it works and sometimes it fails completely.
I do think this is all down to his development issues and my concerns over him having ASD.

My routine that works for Ru every now and then but worked liked magic on all the other boys (and still does) is:

6pm Bath with bedtime bath bubbles,
6.45pm warm milk
7pm Story, bed, kisses and hugs.

Also after bath time, I rub in a calming lotion on their chests,
Bepanthen nappy rash cream on their clean bottoms;
as applying a barrier cream to their bottoms helps prevent nappy rash from occurring, specially when a nappy is going to be on for such a long period of time.
Lavender bags placed inside their pillow cases (my secret weapon!!)

No screen time after 6, as too much screen time as we all know doesn't help a child calm down.


A great night sleep doesn't always happy but when it does you know the next day is going to be a great one!

Ru does on occasion suffer from nappy rash, but since using Bepanthen after his bath and again in the morning, we haven't had an issue!



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