Thursday, 19 April 2018

Keeping The Spark Alive When You Have Kids

When you first get with your partner, your now husband or wife, I can guarantee that you don’t think things will ever change between you. A spark might fly every time you catch one another gazing into each other's eyes, you go out, you enjoy each others company and life seems good. Fast forward to now and you have children, a house that it chaotic, perhaps pets to deal with and a total of zero time for one another. Sound familiar? While you are probably navigating the ship that is a family life together, it is still important to ensure that you spend some time on your relationship. After all, it is the glue that sticks it all together. I wanted to share with you some of the ways you can keep the spark alive. It might be something you do once every few years or something you make a more regular thing, but the investment is worth it.


Let’s talk about the biggie, a couples only holiday

The big one is, of course, the chance to go away on holiday just you two. This may be something you work towards for when the children are a little older. Perhaps planning a once in a lifetime trip that sees you take in the sights and sounds of locations like Costa Rica, starting your journey at the Courtyard San Jose Airport Alajuela, enjoying a cruise along the Panama Canal, taking in the glorious beaches of Los Cabos in Mexico and taking a road trip around some of the iconic states of the USA. Just a few suggestions there on your bucket list, but it is definitely something to daydream about and plan for the future.

A cheeky night away

Something not as far reaching as a holiday is a night away together and this can work wonders for your relationship. It may only happen on special occasions like birthdays, but these once or twice year opportunities are just what the doctor ordered in terms of reconnection and time to rekindle the romance. It doesn't even need to be anywhere too far or elaborate, often the time you get far outweighs anything else.

A date night

Date nights are one of those things that many couples argue they don’t need, and while it shouldn't take fates to keep your romance alive, they can really help you just enjoy each others company in a different setting. The cinema, a meal out of a coffee date is often enough.

A date at home

Not all of us have the luxury of extra funds to do what we want when we want and so dates at home have become really popular. Taking it in turns to cook, watching box sets or choosing different films to enjoy. It can be a great way to spend quality time without leaving your front door, and the best part of it is you can do it in your pyjamas.

Simple communication daily

Finally, something that can be done daily to keep the spark alive is communication. You don’t need to debate worldly affairs or the latest revelation in politics, but you can discuss each others day, no matter how mundane or boring you think it may sound. Openly discussing what you have done gives insight into each other's lives and it can be the simplest way to just strike up a conversation and be in a moment together.

I hope these ideas help you keep the spark alive in your relationship when you have kids.

Tuesday, 10 April 2018

... Cousins, Beach Walks and The Funfair ...

Last Thursday Kelly and the girls came to stay.
It was a bit of a spur of the moment plan and it was lovely having them all here.

Esme slept in the twins room, as the twins share a bed normally so Esme got a whole bed to herself, Kelly took Ru's bed as that's usually empty and Isla shared with Noah on the first night then the next two nights shared with her mum in Ru's room.

Our table was full and it was nice to see all the kids happy and together.


Friday.

We headed out early to soft play getting there for when it opened in a bid to miss the mad rush but thankfully it wasn't too busy and the kids had two hours of running around like crazy loons.
Afterwards, I tried to get a nice photo for my mum of all the kids together but as you can tell from the picture about they really weren't feeling it!



After lunch, we decided to walk to North beach and let the kids run around and have an ice cream.


I bought them some bucket and spades after the ice creams and they all ran off to build sandcastles, the tide was out so they had plenty of space to run around on and try and build a sandcastle village.
Ru gave up pretty quickly but then ordered me to build him a sandcastle rainbow...





As the weather was nice and we had no real rush to get home we decided to attempt to walk along the beach to Hunstanton.

I had told Kelly it would only take 10 minutes....even though I had never done it before.
Thinking about it now, it takes 10 minutes in the car so I should have known it would have taken longer.

...... It took about an hour or so.



The kids were actually really good and hardly moaned at all!
Esme, Isla and Noah ran along the sand collecting shells and bits and bobs as they went, Ru was in the stroller and I knew he wouldn't walk from our house to the local beach let alone all the way to Hunstanton, and the twins both walked beside me looking at all the lovely holiday houses along the seafront.


They were all really impressed that they'd walked to Hunstanton and can't wait to go back to school and tell their teachers!



As a treat for the kids being so good, we took them into the funfair, we all went on the caterpillar roller coaster and everyone enjoyed it, though Ru is still a little unsure if he liked it or not.

His favourite was the car merry go round and he went on those a couple of times.
Everyone apart from me and Ru went on the bumper cars ..... turns out Noah's a bit of a dangerous driver!

Before we left Isla and Noah went on the twister and from the ground, it looked as though Noah was going to cry but apparently he loved it.





Saturday.

We spent the morning lazing around at home, letting the kids do as they pleased.
After lunch, we took them back over to Norfolk Lavander and went into the Animal Gardens and Play Park, hoping they would get the rest of their energy out there.

On entry, they were all given a little quiz and a sheet to use in the maze to collect stamps so that they'd win a goodie bag on the way home.


They all ran around looking at all the animals and trying to find the answers to the questions, we let them loose into the maze by themselves.... to which I'm pretty sure they all cheated as it didn't take them long to find all the stamps and they all came back out the way they went in.


Their best bit was getting to handle some of the animals, the boys all loved holding the snakes and Noah made friends with a bearded dragon.
Ru loved the Tenrec as he had a wet nose that wriggled around!
I tried to get a good photo but it was just too wriggly.

After they had finished looking at all the animals they went and played in the play park.

The girls and Kelly headed back to London on Sunday morning. 
It was lovely having them here and the house felt rather empty once they'd left.
It was really nice having a few busy days and we all felt better for it.
We are all missing them now and Rupert keeps asking when they are coming back.



Friday, 30 March 2018

... Haircuts, Dinosaurs and Hoppy Easter ...

I haven't really done a personal update in a while, so I thought now would be a good time to a little update on what we have been up to recently.

I've been having a non-planned social media break.
I've found that I haven't really posted much in the last few weeks and it has been quite nice just enjoying life without a phone in my hand.

I have been pretty busy with coursework and writing my first TMA.
The boys have mainly been busy with school and sports clubs.


A couple of weeks ago it was World Book Day and the boys all dressed up,
Ru went as Roo the Roaring Dinosaur,
Alex went as a Monster who loves Underpants... I did take a picture, but I can't find it on my phone :(
Oscar went as a Star Wars Storm Trooper as he didn't want to dress as a proper book character and Noah went as Harry Potter.


Link was neutered, and it was a trickier operation than expected as they had to take out all his intestines to find his hidden testical.
He had a cone on for 10 days, and we had to make sure he didn't suffer from internal bleeding and we had to keep him in the lounge to stop him going up the stairs or jumping around too much.
After the 10 days, he was desperate to get out of the lounge and have his collar taken off!

new house plant we found in Tesco's for £2.50


I got this awesome shirt to wow the kids in reception but unfortunately, it isn't long enough in the arms and my tattoos are on the show. So I need to find a thin long sleeved top to wear underneath. I have however worn it out and about and it has received lots of good comments!

 

My first proper TMA was marked and I was over the moon with the score...
84%!!
I just hope I can beat that on my next one.

I also finally got round to getting my hair sorted, my greys are all gone, my very old graduated bob is now evened out and I have highlights!!





The boys all had haircuts yesterday and they are all very pleased with them and I keep catching them looking in the mirror and touching their heads!


This morning we took the boys to a local church hall to join in with some Easter Crafts and hear the Easter Story. The boys all really enjoy joining in with the Church community and it's nice to see them doing something other than playing on the Xbox!


We are spending Easter Sunday at Jon's parents and Helen has planned a special egg hunt for all the boys.
Last year they had a great time running around their garden looking for the clues, so they can't wait for this year's hunt. 


Our Easter fireplace.
Easter Bonnet Parade Ready.









































I hope you all have a lovely Easter
x

Dinosaur shirt - www.shein.co.uk
Pink and White Plant Pot  - www.thetrianglehouse.co.uk